What you can do: Supporting yourself and others after a trans death or violent crime

From our colleagues at FORGE:

What you can do:  Supporting yourself and others after a trans death or violent crime
January 2, 2015

It is normal to feel grief, anger, fear, sadness, and confusion when we lose someone we care about, particularly if the death was unexpected and/or violent. People who identify as part of one or more subpopulations can also feel these feelings when they learn that someone they did not know but who also belonged to their group has died or been seriously harmed. This is obviously true of the trans community, in which news of suicides, murders, and other violence reverberates quickly via social media and word-of-mouth…

First step: Take care of yourself
It’s hard for any of us to be there for others, to push for social change, and to create a world that is healthier and safer for everyone, if we don’t attend to our own core needs. Here is a short reminder list about common things that help us function better and enable us to more effectively help others…

What you can do now!
Once you have taken care of your own core needs, the following are just a few actions you can take now that may help others who are experiencing difficult times (and they might help you too).

Call someone. You can call anyone, but it may be better to call someone who is likely also feeling your current loss. Listen. Seriously, that’s all: just listen to each other. Sharing the pain can be remarkably healing.

Making a difference in the long run
There are a lot of things you can do.
Consider joining a buddy or mentorship program. It doesn’t matter if you are the more experienced or less experienced person in the pairing; the point is connecting people who learn to care about each other.

Need even more ideas? Check out “101 Things You Can Do” at http://forge-forward.org/wp-content/docs/we-are-all-responsible1.pdf